Relax About Religion? When is it okay?

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Jaimie Eckert

Published on May 17, 2020; Updated on Aug 3, 2021

In all the fervor of devotional life and the buzz of ministry, it’s easy to get the idea that “more is better.” But is it possible to be overzealous about spiritual things? Is it sometimes ok to relax about religion?

Let’s talk.

Some Need to Relax About Religion, Others Don’t

I’ve worked in a variety of ministry roles since 2010 and I’ve observed that not every believer should receive the same answer to the same question. People are different, so my answer about how to know when to relax about religion is going to reflect the inherent differences in people’s personal spirituality.

In general, we could say that people fall into one of three categories:

  1. Nominal Believer 
  2. Balanced Believer
  3. Overzealous Believer

There are a lot of balanced believers in the world, but there are also some who fall into carelessness or manic religious behavior. These are people who are either under stimulated or overstimulated by religion.

So obviously, when you ask the question, “how do I know when to relax about religion,” it’s going to be a different answer depending on whether you are someone who is under or over stimulated by your faith.

How Do I Know If I Should Relax About Religion?

Understimulated believers need to be encouraged to engage their passion and devotion with their religious experience. They need to do more. Overzealous believers, on the other hand, need to do less. They are typically the ones who are in danger of burnout, self-induced discouragement, or unbiblical stupidity like violence in the name of religion.

(See my article about a Sabbath rest for the overstimulated, obsessive believer.)

When I work with clients with scrupulosity (also known as religious OCD), we generally see people who are overstimulated to the point of mental, physical, and spiritual exhaustion. There are quite a number of cases where obsessive-compulsive disorder morphs into a spiritual manifestation, so instead of touching the doorknob six times and washing your hands for 30 minutes at a time, you pray repetitively with nervous compulsion or obsess about the details of religious life or work in ministry until you burn yourself out.

(If you’ve never heard of scrupulosity before here’s a link to a scrupulosity quiz that can give you a whole series of diagnostic-type questions for religious OCD.)

I Don’t Have Scrupulosity. So What About Me?

But some people are overzealous without having this biological predisposition to scrupulosity.

What about them?

For many who have these manic religious experiences, it’s simply based on a misunderstanding of God’s requirements. For example, failing to recognize that God values balance and health.

I really like the passage in Mark 6:31-32. The disciples were super busy and hadn’t even had time to eat or rest. It’s an interesting example when Jesus prioritized self-care for the disciples rather than spiritual disciplines and ministry.

And He said to them, “Come aside by yourselves to a deserted place and rest a while.” For there were many coming and going, and they did not even have time to eat. So they departed to a deserted place in the boat by themselves.

Mark 6:31-32

Another passage that I really like is from Psalm 127:2.

It is vain for you to rise up early,
To sit up late,
To eat the bread of sorrows;
For so He gives His beloved sleep.

Psalm 127:2

God is not in the business of pushing us beyond human capacity. Although He does at times ask us to step out in faith and do hard things, if you notice a trend in your spiritual life of constantly being burned out and overstimulated, it’s probably not a faith problem. It may be as simple as too much zeal that is pushing you beyond the requirements of God.

But I Think God Is Speaking to Me Personally.

There are also some who have a VERY unhealthy view of revelation and inspiration and uncritically believe that every thought passing through their mind is a message from God.

Like, “God spoke to me this morning and told me I need to go door-to-door during coronavirus to share the gospel” (that’s a real example someone told me).

So an inability to separate between my own thoughts and the Holy Spirit can be another cause for pushing people into an overzealous spiritual experience. If you’re getting private revelations and internal compulsions to do strange or illegal things in the name of God that no one else supports, then you want to be careful.

When Is It Ok to Be More Religious Than Everybody Else?

I’ll add another caveat. There are some people who are considered overzealous by their faith community when in actuality they are entering a more mature experience with God’s word.

We recently spoke with a man who appears to be in a rather nominal faith environment. As he reads his Bible, he feels stimulated to greater faith and action, and has been told that he’s going too far and being fanatic.

It’s one thing to take a critical look around yourself and realize you’re in a nominal, sluggish faith community, and want to do more to follow God’s word. In this case, don’t pay attention to the nay-sayers.


When is it ok to relax about religion?

Well, this is not a simple question, and without knowing you directly, it’s hard to give more specified advice.

But in general, overzealous believers need to relax, and nominal believers need to put more effort. Over-zeal is most commonly found in people who:

  1. Have scrupulosity
  2. Have imbalanced scriptural views that overemphasize works and underemphasize God’s value of human life, health, and balance
  3. Have an unhealthy view of revelation

If you find yourself in any of these categories, it can be helpful to survey your spiritual experience and make sure you are not pushing yourself beyond God’s expectations.

Let me know what you think in the comments below! I wish you the best in your spiritual journey.

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  • Hello, thanks for writing this blog! It’s been a great resource.
    I know I have religious OCD, and I’ve defiantly been in a place of being overstimulated. Over the course of the last few years, though, as I’ve tried to cease that part, I’ve noted that my heart and faith are getting weaker. Now I see myself in the nominal position, not serving God or giving. I can say that the overstimulation was leading to the burnout or exhaustion, but now it seems like I’ve overcorrected. How could I go about fixing that?

    • Seeing your overcorrection is part of the fix already. 🙂 I’ve also been there when I realize I’ve overcorrected to try to get out of my OCD bad habits. What we have to do at that point is to begin re-engaging with God and spirituality from a rational and biblical and healthy position, NOT from an emotionally-driven, anxious position. So if you were over-giving and now are not giving at all, you’d want to determine what would be a rational, biblical, normal amount to give, and then start giving that. Your emotions might tell you otherwise (and it can sometimes happen that when we start trying to re-engage in a healthy way, the OCD will try to drag you back to that old hyper-active, fanatical, obsessive place) so you’ll have to be strong and ignore those emotional urges. Try to stick with Scripture and rationality rather than feelings.

      Hope this helps. If it makes you feel any better, I’ve totally been there too. Keep going, it’ll get better.

  • Hi, Jamie.
    Once again, thank you so much for all you. Finding this blog had been such a help.
    I actually had two questions I was hopping could elaborate on. What exactly does a balanced believer look like? I don't know if that's one that can be easily answered, bit I figured it was at least worth a try.

    The second is, how does revelation from the Holy Spirit actually work? I ask because I recently came out of a season where I think I listened to the thoughts in my head way too much (and a possible obsession with promptings) that cause me no end of trouble. I drove myself crazy trying to "test the spirits" , have not been able to let things go even when I realized they aren't promptings, missed opportunities in hindsight I didn't need to miss ,etc. Thankfully I got some better console and found this blog, but I still have a lot of confusion when it comes to revelation.

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